So. Maria Miller’s apology to the House of Commons. As the UK press have repeatedly reminded us, it was just thirty-two seconds long. But its perfunctory nature wasn’t the only reason it bombed.
Here’s the text of the thing:
“The committee has recommended that I apologise to the House for my attitude to the commissioner’s inquiries, and I of course unreservedly apologise.
“I fully accept the recommendations of the committee and thank them for bringing this matter to an end.”
The reason the Opposition, the press and Miller’s constituents weren’t buying any of it wasn’t because the apology was so short. It’s because she never actually, er, said “sorry”. Not even for her attitude at the inquiries, let alone for the teeny-tiny confusion with the expenses.
So here’s a tip if you ever need to say sorry: never, ever use the words “I apologise” (and, no, modifying it with the adverb “unreservedly” doesn’t change that rule).
Just say “I’m sorry”. Don’t distance yourself from the apology itself by bringing your audience’s attention to the act of apologising. Because people can sense, like they did with Miller, that you’re acting under duress.
Oh, and isn’t there just a hint of self-pity in that bit about the matter coming to the end? Reminds me a little of BP’s Tony “I want my life back” Hayward. Hayward did get his life back, and the matter of Miller’s Cabinet career was, indeed, brought to an end.
So here’s another tip. Remember: an apology’s about the other person, not you. If you’ve screwed up, nobody wants to hear about your pain.
Non-UK readers can get the full background on the Maria Miller story here, where you’ll also find a video of the apology.